I really loved this piece, especially right now it was just what I needed. I have been feeling so disrespected lately and SO ANGRY and I think its because a)the disrespect is actually happening b) it has increased because I'm older now and perceived as a Black woman rather than girl and c) because the more I learn about anti-Blackness, the more I can see and feel it--like you said its infiltrated our bodies.
You made me cry with this post, and I wanted to let you know that I see and hear you, even and especially when the disrespect and abuse comes from family. There are two amazing quotes that your piece reminded me of. The first is from a tik tok that a Black creator shared, who said that Black autistic women are some of the most joyful people there are, and the world takes an autistic Black woman and rips the joy out of her. And the second is to remember to include yourself in the category of the Black girls you are fighting for.
This resonates very deeply with me. "My body is too loud. My body is too serious. My body is too political."
Hope this message receives you well and thank you for sharing!
Oh wow, the reminder to include yourself in the black girls you're fighting for struck me. Thank you SO much for sharing those quotes and your experiences with anger and disrespect. You mentioned something I had not thought of, but have been wondering whether or not I was correctly perceiving a change in treatment: the difference in age contributing to increased discrimination. I've noticed people are less kind, more dismissive, and quite aggressive, never considered it was because I aged out of the little protection I had as a young woman. Thank you for this, you've given me a lot to think about and I wish you the peace you deserve in this world. I hope you are surrounded by love ❤️
I resonate so much with this piece. I am so sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine the pain you feel. Compounded by an unsupportive environment, it is too much to bear alone. I relate to feeling of needing to be excellent to be seen as human and valuable. Whenever I tell ppl I feel unlovable as a black autistic fem, they list out all the things I need to work on. I am done working on myself, it is this world that needs to change. This system is rigged against us, but we march on anyway. I pray for more peace, love and reprieve in your life 🤎 You deserve it. Thank you for sharing.
"I'm done working on myself" - YES. I have spent decades stretching myself within this system. It simply doesn't work, because as you said, it's this world that needs to change. It's been liberating to step away from survival skills learned as a child, though difficult at times.
Your comment touched me - thank you for taking the time to see me. I claim this positive energy and I'm grateful to share space with someone who gets it. I am wishing you the same peace and love. You deserve empathy and understanding, not "solutions." ❤️
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I really loved this piece, especially right now it was just what I needed. I have been feeling so disrespected lately and SO ANGRY and I think its because a)the disrespect is actually happening b) it has increased because I'm older now and perceived as a Black woman rather than girl and c) because the more I learn about anti-Blackness, the more I can see and feel it--like you said its infiltrated our bodies.
You made me cry with this post, and I wanted to let you know that I see and hear you, even and especially when the disrespect and abuse comes from family. There are two amazing quotes that your piece reminded me of. The first is from a tik tok that a Black creator shared, who said that Black autistic women are some of the most joyful people there are, and the world takes an autistic Black woman and rips the joy out of her. And the second is to remember to include yourself in the category of the Black girls you are fighting for.
This resonates very deeply with me. "My body is too loud. My body is too serious. My body is too political."
Hope this message receives you well and thank you for sharing!
Oh wow, the reminder to include yourself in the black girls you're fighting for struck me. Thank you SO much for sharing those quotes and your experiences with anger and disrespect. You mentioned something I had not thought of, but have been wondering whether or not I was correctly perceiving a change in treatment: the difference in age contributing to increased discrimination. I've noticed people are less kind, more dismissive, and quite aggressive, never considered it was because I aged out of the little protection I had as a young woman. Thank you for this, you've given me a lot to think about and I wish you the peace you deserve in this world. I hope you are surrounded by love ❤️
I resonate so much with this piece. I am so sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine the pain you feel. Compounded by an unsupportive environment, it is too much to bear alone. I relate to feeling of needing to be excellent to be seen as human and valuable. Whenever I tell ppl I feel unlovable as a black autistic fem, they list out all the things I need to work on. I am done working on myself, it is this world that needs to change. This system is rigged against us, but we march on anyway. I pray for more peace, love and reprieve in your life 🤎 You deserve it. Thank you for sharing.
"I'm done working on myself" - YES. I have spent decades stretching myself within this system. It simply doesn't work, because as you said, it's this world that needs to change. It's been liberating to step away from survival skills learned as a child, though difficult at times.
Your comment touched me - thank you for taking the time to see me. I claim this positive energy and I'm grateful to share space with someone who gets it. I am wishing you the same peace and love. You deserve empathy and understanding, not "solutions." ❤️